Just when I begin to think the bullying issues are mostly out of the way.....they're not. My daughter has been lying to me about it because she has been warned not to tell her mom about it any more. Let's just say when I finally pulled that one out of her my heart was breaking. Yet, I had to disguise it. Instead of blurting out how angry I am, I ask her why she would listen to the other child and lie to me. Well, I guess the consequences for lying to mom outweighed the fear of being punched. I had to tell her that I am not mad at her although I am upset that she lied. I want her to be able to tell me these things. I want to talk them out with her and don't want her to internalize.
I talked with her about how this makes her feel - sad and mad. I asked her why she isn't standing up for herself. It's too hard, and the behavior doesn't stop anyway. She tells me she has to restrain herself because she really wants to punch the other child. The only way she restrains is through prayer. I again remind her she needs to pray for the child even though it is hard, and I can understand not wanting to pray for her.
I just want to make it all better, but I don't know how. I know there will always be mean people, but when you are in a school situation, there should be some sort of discipline. I ask God for wisdom, for guidance in how to deal with it. I don't want to deal based on my gut reaction. I want to reach out to the school and give them a piece of my mind, but it wouldn't change anything. To approach it in love with suggestions is the right thing to do, so I will wait and pray. Pray for a change in my attitude, pray for this child, pray for my child, pray for the school officials, and pray that God would reveal to me exactly what I am to do and to say.
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